Transitioning to Public School
Hey everyone, I’m a teenager who has been homeschooled, but my parents have decided that I’ll be starting public school for my freshman year of high school.
I struggle with pretty severe social anxiety, which has escalated recently to the point of experiencing panic attacks in crowded places. My parents believe this may be tied to my homeschooling, and they feel it was a mistake to limit my social interactions. The panic attacks began around the end of 7th grade, but they wanted to wait until high school so I could start fresh with the other freshmen. While I suppose this timing makes it easier than starting mid-year, I can’t shake the fear of being seen as the “weird homeschooled kid.” Plus, I don’t have any friends who currently attend public school, which only adds to my anxiety about going in alone.
The school my parents have chosen is holding an open house in two days, and I’ve been on edge since they announced it. I always knew I’d have to make this transition, but it didn’t feel real until now, and I am genuinely terrified. My only understanding of high school comes from movies (and everyone keeps telling me it’s nothing like that). The thought of being around so many teenagers every day feels overwhelming, and I’m particularly anxious about the idea of interacting with students who are up to four years older than me.
What was meant to be a question has turned into quite the rant! I would really appreciate any tips or insights you might have about transitioning to public school. What’s it like for you? Thanks for any advice you can share, and for taking the time to read this!
First of all, I want to commend you for sharing your feelings and concerns—it’s a big step, and it’s completely understandable to feel anxious about such a significant change. Transitioning from homeschooling to public school can be daunting, especially when social anxiety is part of the equation. Here are some tips that might help you navigate this new experience:
Start Small: At the open house, try to set small goals for yourself. For example, aim to speak to just one new person or ask a question to a teacher. It’s okay to take baby steps.
Familiarize Yourself: If possible, visit the school beforehand or walk around the neighborhood. Knowing what to expect can reduce anxiety on the actual day when classes start.
Connect with Other New Students: You’re not alone in this! Many freshmen will be feeling just as nervous as you. Try to find opportunities to connect with other newcomers—maybe through social media or school clubs.
Join Clubs or Activities: Getting involved in a club or activity that interests you can help you meet like-minded people in a more relaxed environment. It also gives you a sense of belonging.
Talk to Your Teachers: If you’re feeling particularly anxious, let your teachers know. They can provide support and may even help create a more comfortable classroom environment for you.
Practice Self-Care: Make sure to incorporate activities that help you relax and recharge, whether it’s reading, drawing, or spending time outdoors. Finding healthy outlets for your stress can make a big difference.
Seek Support: If you feel overwhelmed, consider talking to a counselor or therapist who can help you develop coping strategies for your anxiety. Many schools have mental health resources available.
Be Kind to Yourself: Remember that it’s okay to feel nervous. Give yourself grace as you adjust to this new environment. Everyone has their own unique journey, and it’s perfectly fine to take your time.
As for what high school is really like, it varies widely depending on the school and the people, but I think a lot of students find their own group of friends, even if it takes some time. High school can be a place of personal growth, and even though it seems overwhelming now, you might find it more enjoyable than you expect. Remember, you’re not alone, and taking this step shows great courage. Good luck!