Attachment to a Teacher
I casually emailed my teacher one day after noticing she had taken her glasses off the previous day. I was just curious because, honestly, she looked great without them. The next day, I saw the vice principal, and it seemed like my teacher might have felt uncomfortable with my email. Now, I’m left wondering if she dislikes me or just finds me annoying. I genuinely want to talk to her again because she’s really nice, but I can’t shake the feeling that I shouldn’t. I feel bad about the situation—it’s not like I meant to make her uncomfortable! In my previous school, my favorite teacher interpreted similar compliments positively, so I assumed she would too.
It sounds like you’re feeling really conflicted about this situation. It’s great that you recognize her feelings and are reflecting on how your actions might have made her uncomfortable. Each teacher has a different comfort level with personal interactions, and it’s understandable that your previous experiences shaped how you approached this one.
If you do want to communicate with her again, consider keeping it light and neutral. You could acknowledge that you realize your last message might have been misinterpreted and that you genuinely appreciate her as a teacher. It’s perfectly okay to admire someone, but just be mindful of their boundaries.
If you sense she’s still uncomfortable or doesn’t respond well, it’s important to respect her space. Remember, it’s okay to admire someone from a distance too. Focus on your studies and enjoying the rest of the school year, and perhaps your relationship with her will naturally evolve over time!