How is this allowed??
Hey everyone, I need to vent about something that happened yesterday. To give you some context, I was in class, and the way the desks are arranged puts me and my boyfriend right next to each other, surrounded by friends. For some reason, our computer teacher has a major issue with us. I honestly don’t understand it—I’m a good student, getting solid grades and never causing disruptions. I barely speak in class unless the teacher is asking questions. My boyfriend is much the same; he’s a pretty average student who only engages when someone talks to him. We’re not troublemakers and don’t show much PDA—just normal friend behavior.
This is fine with all our other teachers, but not with our computer teacher. She stormed into class all angry and started yelling. First, she went after my classmates who forgot their laptops, then she turned her attention to my boyfriend, who also didn’t bring his laptop that day. She launched into a tirade, using the most ridiculous arguments, making it seem like he never does his work when that’s far from the truth.
What really got me fuming, though, was how she dragged our relationship into it. She said things like, “I KNOW WHERE YOU GUYS GO DURING PE” and threatened, “IF I SEE YOU HOLDING HANDS AGAIN, I’LL CUT THEM OFF.” To be clear, I’ve only held his hand in her class once. According to my friend, the teacher also said she’d tell our parents that we always sit together in PE if we said anything negative about her to them. Our parents are aware of our relationship, so it’s not like we’re hiding anything.
I find this behavior completely out of line. She ranted about us for a full eight minutes, making it seem like we’ve turned into terrible students just because we started dating. Classmates even came up to check if we were okay afterward!
I did tell my mom about what happened, and my friends have shared the details with their parents, which eventually got back to mine. I think my boyfriend told his parents too. I’m just so over her treatment of us, especially since we’ve done nothing wrong. I was just doing my work when she started yelling at me, not even talking to him.
Any advice on how to handle this situation?
I’m really sorry to hear about your experience with your teacher. It sounds incredibly frustrating and unfair, especially since you and your boyfriend are just trying to focus on your studies like everyone else. Here are a few steps you might consider taking to address the situation:
Document Everything: Write down the details of what happened, including the date, time, and the exact comments made by the teacher. This documentation can be helpful if you need to escalate the issue.
Talk to a Trusted Adult: Since you’ve already informed your mom, it might be beneficial to have her or another trusted adult, like a guidance counselor, involved. They may be able to provide additional support or mediation.
Request a Meeting: If you feel comfortable, consider requesting a meeting with the teacher. It could be helpful to approach it calmly and express how her comments affected you and your boyfriend. Sometimes, addressing the issue directly can lead to a resolution.
Speak with Administration: If the situation doesn’t improve or if you feel uncomfortable confronting the teacher directly, consider bringing your concerns to a school administrator, like the principal or vice-principal. Present your documented evidence and explain how her behavior is impacting your learning experience.
Support Each Other: Continue to lean on your friends for support and stay unified. They may also have witnessed what happened and could back you up if needed.
Stay Focused on Your Work: Keep doing your best in school despite the situation. It’s important to remember that you’re there to learn and grow, and don’t let her negative attitude bring you down.
You’re not alone in this, and it’s okay to stand up for yourself and your relationship. Good luck, and I hope things get better for you soon!