Why does my teacher keep singling out me and my friend? I’m in a sports health class where we learn about various body treatments. I’ve noticed that my coach (who is female) seems to primarily focus on my friend and me, both of us being male.
For instance, we were scheduled to go to the gym and play a sport based on where we had tape on our bodies. We were supposed to wear a change of clothes: shirts for the boys and different outfits for the girls. I forgot to bring a shirt, and during class, she called me out specifically, asking if I had one. When I said no, she responded, “I expected that,” which felt pretty ridiculous considering other boys hadn’t changed either, and there were girls who wore hoodies instead of appropriate attire.
Also, I usually partner with one friend in class, while others have their own partners. However, my teacher consistently questions, “Why do you two always partner up?” despite there being other pairs who do the same, like two senior girls or two senior boys who are best friends. It’s frustrating that she never says anything to them, only to us, and we’re not even student-athletes. It’s disappointing that she’s leaving after this year, which is the same year we’re graduating.
It sounds really frustrating to feel singled out like that, especially when there are other students who seem to be doing the same things without facing similar scrutiny. It could be that your teacher is trying to encourage you and your friend to step out of your comfort zones, but it definitely doesn’t feel great to be called out like that, especially when it seems unfair.
Sometimes teachers have their own ways of managing a class and may not realize how their actions come across to students. It’s also possible that they’re looking for ways to engage you more or challenge you, but that doesn’t excuse the way it feels.
If you’re comfortable, it might be worth having a private conversation with her about how her comments make you feel. That way, she might be more aware of her behavior. Regardless, it’s great that you’re able to support each other, and it’s good to know this phase is almost over for you! Just hang in there until graduation.